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Dear Quentin,
I live in Utah, and I have been seeing a married man for almost six years. No, I’m not ashamed. Although we both care greatly for each other, our relationship started as and remains a mutually beneficial one: money for me, companionship for him.
He has been my sole source of income for the last 5 years, paying every single expense I have, and he is happy to do so because he loves me and I provide an escape from his miserable home life (his words). He’s been married a long time, and his only child is grown.
He is much, much older than I am, and he recently set up a life-insurance policy of $100,000 with me as the beneficiary. His wife knows nothing of me or the policy. We’ve taken steps to ensure I can get a copy of his death certificate without his family knowing.
He is mentally sound (always has been) and in great health. I need to know if his wife would have any claim to that policy should she discover it after his death. What is the likelihood a lawsuit would be in her favor if she sued? Does it matter who makes the payments on the policy?
The Other Woman
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Dear Other Woman,
Shame is a terrible, destructive force in individuals and societies, and I would not wish that anyone.
Married life is more complicated than many people care to admit. Some marriages have “don’t ask, don’t tell” arrangements. Others are marriages of conveniences. And others keep one person is completely in the dark about their spouse’s infidelities. And, yes, some wives are probably glad to have time and space for themselves, and would rather others listen to their husbands.
To your question, it’s very expensive and complicated to even attempt to break a life-insurance policy, which is a legal contract between him and his insurance company. According to Heban, Murphree and Lewandowski, a law firm based in Toledo, Ohio, “This process is not easy to navigate.” His wife would have to prove the policy went against his intentions.
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Your partner is not being transparent in life, and only in death is he prepared to reveal the truth about your relationship.
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“While it is possible to dispute beneficiaries on a life insurance policy, doing so creates a tremendous amount of cost and takes a lot of time,” the law firm says. “It also forces the rest of the estate to stay open, preventing the probate courts from closing the estate and distributing its assets. While the estate is held in the courts, fees, taxes, and other penalties will continue to build.’
There are often other avenues. “To avoid this, some families will take the dispute to mediation or arbitration to work out a settlement. This takes less time and costs less money. In this process, the interested parties can figure out a way to split the benefit to avoid a costly and lengthy court battle. This type of settlement can protect the estate from unnecessary expenses,” it added.
As to your other question, it depends on the term of the particular policy, but the insurance company is mostly concerned that the premiums are paid in full, per the agreement. Ultimately, one can’t predict how people react in times of grief. Your partner is not being transparent in life, and only in death is he prepared to reveal the truth about your relationship. That price of that is $100,000.
It is also a price that will be born by both you and his wife upon his death.
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